It's not the big things that will wear someone down, it's the small things in repetition - a drip feed, if you want. Here's two articles that show this again:

Being a Girl - a Brief Personal History of Violence.
In a similar vein: When Women Stopped Coding. Or: Think twice before giving gendered gifts.

And now have a gratuitous cookie sheep to make this post a little less depressing:

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